You know what you want to do.You just can't do it.
You go quiet when you should speak up. You say yes when you mean no. And no matter how much you understand yourself, the same patterns keep repeating.
Beta · Limited Spaces
Make It
Make Sense.™
An 8-week private experience for women who are tired of asking "why do I keep reacting like this?" and ready to actually understand why.
Specialising in trauma · grief · emotional patterns
What my clients say
150+
Women supported
5
Years experience
8wks
Private 1:1
"If I say no, they'll be upset with me."
If that thought has stopped you from speaking up more times than you can count. You're in the right place.
Does this sound familiar?
Is this for you?
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This is for you if...
✓You find it hard to speak up, say no or ask for what you need
✓You keep reacting in ways you don't understand and can't seem to change
✓You've tried therapy before but something still hasn't shifted
✓You want to understand yourself, not only manage your emotions
✓You want to feel safe being yourself
✗This isn't for you if you want a quick fix or aren't ready to commit to 8 weeks
Here's the thing
Knowing why you reactisn't the same as changing it.
Most women I work with already have some awareness. They know they people please. They know they overthink. They've done therapy. They've read the books.
But the patterns are still there.
That's because understanding what you do isn't the same as understanding why it doesn't feel safe to do anything differently.
Our reactions aren't random. They come from what our nervous system learned was safe. Usually a long time ago. This is especially true for women with unresolved trauma. The body holds onto it long after the mind thinks it's dealt with it.
Until you understand the pattern, the same reactions keep repeating no matter how much you know.
That's where we start.
How it works
The Grounded Response Framework™
8 weeks. Weekly sessions. Just you and me via Zoom.
01
Understand
We figure out why you react the way you do. What sets you off and what sits underneath it. You stop asking "what's wrong with me?" and start understanding what's actually going on.
02
Regulate
We work with your nervous system using counselling, coaching and breathwork. You will still feel things. They stop running the show.
03
Reconnect
You reconnect with what you actually need, what your boundaries are and what you value. The version of you that's been buried under everything else.
04
Respond
You speak up. You set boundaries. You trust yourself. And it lasts this time, because you understand yourself well enough for it to.
The shift
Before and after.
Before
People pleasing
Staying quiet
Reacting then feeling guilty
Overthinking everything
Weak boundaries
Judging yourself
After
Speaking up
Healthy boundaries
Trusting yourself
Understanding yourself
Feeling safe being you
More peace
What women say
Women who havedone this work.
"For 2 years I buried my emotions deep. I could not handle the pain until I found Nay. She helped me open the locked and bolted part of my heart. No words can thank you enough."
— Shannon"I began with grief, loneliness and feeling worthless. By the end my life had changed. I didn't believe this was possible for me."
— Sophia"It really is a huge shift. I've struggled with controlling my anger for a long time. I'm forever grateful."
— Alisi"I believe Nay has saved my life in more ways than one."
— Lauren
Real results
What women experiencein sessions.
5 → 10
Overwhelmed and guilty → relieved, peaceful, energised. In one session.
2 → 9
Anxious, sad, overwhelmed → relieved, energised, grateful. One session.
7 → 10
Overwhelmed → relieved, peaceful, present. "I can be here right now."
Your guide
Hi,I'm Nay.
Holistic Counsellor
Breathwork Therapist
Trauma Specialist
150+ women
About 8 years ago I started spiralling. I'd been diagnosed with depression at 13, put on medication and by my late twenties I was dealing with unresolved trauma and grief that was showing up in every reaction: the rage, the shutdown, the days in bed hating myself for it.
I realised if I didn't do something, nothing was going to change. So I found help that worked on the body and the mind together. And it worked. So I studied it.
Trauma is what I know. It's what brought me to this work and it's what I specialise in.
Now I help women understand why they react so they can speak up, set boundaries and feel safe being themselves.
What's inside
Make It Make Sense™
8 private 1:1 sessions via Zoom
The Grounded Response Framework™: Understand, Regulate, Reconnect, Respond
Holistic counselling, coaching and breathwork
WhatsApp support between every session
Pre-recorded meditations and breathing exercises
Tools you keep long after we finish
Bonus: 3 months free access to Stay Grounded membership
About the bonus
What Stay Grounded is
Stay Grounded is my private membership. It's where the work keeps going after our 8 weeks together.
It's only open to women who have already done breathwork with me. Finishing Make It Make Sense means you're in.
Every month you get:
Two live group breathwork sessions
A live connection circle with other women doing this work
A new meditation, breathing exercise or journal prompt every week
A private community where I answer questions Monday to Friday
Priority access to retreats and 10% off
Most women join for 3 months at $450. Your first 3 months are included.
By the end you'll...
→Understand why you react the way you do
→Speak up in situations that used to silence you
→Set boundaries without the guilt spiral
→Stop judging yourself for your reactions
→Trust yourself and your decisions
→Feel safe being yourself
I hear you
The things that mightbe stopping you.
"I don't have time."
I'm a full time mum running a business. I built this around real life. All sessions are via Zoom from home. If life happens, we work around it.
"I've tried therapy and it didn't fully work."
Most women I work with have already done therapy. That awareness is valuable. What I add is the nervous system and breathwork piece, which shifts things at a body level as well as a thinking level.
"$1,000 is a lot of money."
It is. There's a payment plan if that makes it easier. 4 payments of $250, fortnightly across the 8 weeks.
This is the beta rate. It goes to $2,000 when it fully launches. And $600 of what you pay comes back to you as your 3 months in Stay Grounded.
"What if it doesn't work for me?"
Every woman who has shown up and done the work has experienced a real shift. The application process is there so we can make sure it's the right fit before we begin.
Investment
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Beta pricing.
This is the first round of Make It Make Sense. As a beta client you get the full experience at half the price, in exchange for honest feedback and a short testimonial at the end.
Make It Make Sense™ · Beta
$1,000
AUD · 8 weeks · 1:1 via Zoom · Full price $2,000
Or 4 payments of $250, fortnightly
Beta rate · 5 spaces only
8 private 1:1 sessions
WhatsApp support between sessions
Breathwork integration
Pre-recorded meditations and breathing exercises
Tools you keep forever
Bonus: 3 months Stay Grounded membership (worth $450)
Good to know
Your 8 sessions run weekly across 8 weeks.
Life happens, so you have 12 weeks from your start date to use all 8 sessions. That is 4 weeks of extra room built in.
Sessions not used within the 12 weeks are forfeited.
To reschedule, give me at least 24 hours notice and we will find another time.
Sessions cancelled with less than 24 hours notice count as used.
On the payment plan, all 4 payments are due across the 8 weeks whether or not every session has been used.
Consistency is what makes this work. Long gaps between sessions slow everything down.
FAQs
I've done therapy and it didn't fully work. Why would this? ↓
Therapy is great for understanding where something comes from. What I add is nervous system work through breathwork and coaching, reconnecting with your values and boundaries and building tools that actually change how you respond. Most women who come to me have already done therapy. That awareness is valuable. We just go further with it.
What is conscious connected breathwork? ↓
You lie down, put music on and I guide you through a continuous breathing rhythm with no pause between the in breath and the out breath. It shifts what is happening in your nervous system, which lets stored emotion move instead of sitting there. Most women feel it in their body. Tingling, warmth, heat, sometimes tears. You are awake and in control the whole time and you can slow down or stop whenever you want.
What is holistic counselling? ↓
Talk based support that looks at the whole picture. Your history, your body, your relationships, what you believe about yourself. A lot of counselling stays in the thinking. Holistic counselling includes what is going on in your body, because that is usually where the pattern is actually being held.
I've never done breathwork. Is that okay? ↓
Completely fine. I introduce it gradually once we've already done some work together. You don't need any experience.
Is there anyone breathwork isn't safe for? ↓
Yes and I ask about this before we start. Pregnancy, heart conditions, high blood pressure, epilepsy, glaucoma or a detached retina, recent surgery and some psychiatric diagnoses including bipolar and psychosis all mean I either adapt the breathing or leave it out. Please tell me anything relevant in your application or first session, even if you are unsure whether it matters. If breathwork isn't right for you, we still do the counselling and coaching work and I use gentler regulation techniques instead.
Do I need a private space for our sessions? ↓
You need somewhere you won't be interrupted, where you feel comfortable crying or making sound if that happens. A bedroom with the door shut is enough. Headphones help a lot. If you share a house or have kids at home, tell me and we will work out timing so you are not sitting there worrying about being overheard.
Is this therapy? What if I'm already seeing someone or on medication? ↓
Yes. It is holistic therapy, which is a different thing to clinical psychology or psychiatry. I'm a Master Practitioner of Holistic Counselling and a Level 2 Breathwork Therapist. I work with your emotional patterns, your nervous system and your history. What I don't do is diagnose or prescribe. That sits with doctors, psychologists and psychiatrists. If you are already seeing someone or you are on medication, keep going with that. This works alongside it and it helps me if you tell me what you already have in place.
Do I have to talk through my trauma in detail? ↓
No. You share what you want to share. Understanding a pattern doesn't mean retelling every event. Going into detail before you feel safe usually makes things harder. We move at the pace you set.
What if I cry or fall apart in a session? ↓
That happens and it is welcome. Nothing has gone wrong when it does. You don't need to hold it together for me and you won't be rushed through it.
What if I don't know what my patterns are? ↓
Most women don't when they start. Working that out is the first part of what we do. You come with the reactions you keep having and we work backwards from there.
Is what I share confidential? ↓
Yes. What you tell me stays between us. The only exceptions are the legal ones, where there is a serious risk to your safety or someone else's.
I'm really busy. How does this fit in? ↓
All sessions are via Zoom from home. I'm a full time mum running a business. I built this around real life. If something comes up, we work around it.
What if I need to reschedule a session? ↓
That is completely fine. Give me at least 24 hours notice and we will find another time that works. To keep the work moving you have 12 weeks from your start date to use all 8 sessions, which builds in 4 extra weeks on top of the 8. Anything unused after that is forfeited. I hold to this because consistency is what makes the difference. When sessions get spread out over months, the momentum goes and we end up starting over each time.
Can I do this from anywhere? ↓
Yes. Everything is via Zoom. I work with women across Australia and internationally.
Every time you say yeswhen you mean no,it costs you something.
It might be a birthday dinner you didn't want to go to. A conversation you walked away from saying nothing. A moment you were there but not really there.
The longer this goes on, the further away from yourself you get.
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